Tuesday, May 11, 2004

7 DON'Ts after meal

Below are 7 DON'Ts after meal:

1. *Don't smoke -
Experiment from expert prove that smoking a cigarette after meal is comparable to smoking 10 cigarette (chances of cancer higher)

2. *Don't eat fruit immediately -
Immediately eat fruit after meal will cause stomach to be bloated with air. Therefore take fruit 1-2 hr after meal or 1hr before meal.

3. *Don't drink tea -
This substance will cause the Protein content in the food we consume to be harden thus difficult to digest

4. *Don't loosen your belt -
Loosen belt after meal will easily caused the intestine to be twisted & block.

5. *Don't bath -
Bathing will cause the increase of blood flow to the hands, legs & body thus the amount of blood around the stomach will therefore decrease. This will weaken the digestive system in our stomach.

6. *Don't walk about -
People always say that after meal walk a hundred step will live till 99. In actual fact this is not true. Walking will cause the digestive system unable to absorb the nutrition from the food we intake.

7. *Don't sleep immediately -
The food we intake were unable to digest properly. Thus will lead to gastric & infection in our intestine

Do take good care of yourself.

Period Pain ? Don't Take Panadol:

* Refrain from taking panadol

According to a genealogist, 8 out of 10 girls will have cyst, however we have control over it too. How? We must not let it grow bigger or into a blood cyst:

1) Refrain from taking panadol or ponstan painkiller to subside the pain..... however there are many side effects too and when you are immune to the drugs it will not help whether you take the entire row of painkillers or not.

2) Pain endurance ~ The menstrual cramps do subside after a while. Well, lets say you can't endure the pain without any painkillers; this is the time to go see a genealogist (women have a higher threshold of pain than man).

3) Ways to counter menstrual cramps:
a) Refrain from taking icy drinks especially one week before your period);
b) Take a 1000mcg of Evening Primrose Oil every 2 days;
c) Regular Exercise. It really helps relieve menstrual cramps, 3 times per week (if you can);
d) Chinese medicine Pill (Pak Fong wan) - Have 1 pill a week before and after your Menstruation, it helps to regulate and replenished nutrients in your body. If you are vegetarian, you will not be able to take it.
e) Have plenty of vitamins A and D. Carrots, spinach, broccoli, fish, papayas, etc...

You are what you eat so please do take care of your body ok.

Something to add on ... Ladies please drink lots of milk! or high calcium products especially if u intend to give birth), I'm not trying to advertise for Milk Company but it can really prevent osteoporosis. It's not fatal but can cause lots of inconvenience to your life in future... So start drinking now....

Severe/slight abdominal pain: it's not something to be taken lightly.

Women should not treat "Endometriosis" (abdominal pain before / during their menses) lightly cause the side effects will come a few years later after marriage whereby the disease will develop into cysts (sac found in the body, containing liquid matter).

If the cyst got bigger, you'll have to undergo a surgery to remove it but if it's a blood cyst, things may get worse as your womb / pelvic / uterus / fallopian tubes will be infected and create more problems. If the infection is not properly treated, serious problems like infertility may arise.

So, whenever you girls do experience period cramps, dun just pop a Panadol or Ponstan to relieve the pain instead go to a genealogist for a further diagnosis as you never know that you're suffering from one which may not at first seems like a serious problem.

Hope you gals will be aware of this. And guys, please convey this message to your girlfriend/wife, u must take good care of your partner you know

The Power of Choice

The Power of Choice
(c) Mary Allen

We are always at choice. Sounds simple. For many things, this is an
easy and empowering concept to embrace. Someone asks you out to dinner.
Do you really want to go? You decide "yes" or "no". You're at choice.
Someone asks you to do something you don't want to do. Again, you're at
choice..."yes" or "no".

Yet, how many times have you said, or heard someone else repeatedly
say, "I don't have a choice"? Deadlines. Big projects. Children.
Commitments. Agreements. Board Meetings. Relationships. Look at anyone
who is stressed, overwhelmed or filled with anxiety, and I'll show you
a person who doesn't feel in control of their life. Our lives are
filled with "have to's", "need to's" and "shoulds", which can bring
great stress. When the stakes get larger, the idea of "choice" can go
right out the window. In the eye of life's biggest challenges, I'd like
to suggest that "you are always at choice".

Let's take a commitment you've made at work. Perhaps a huge undertaking
that is going to require extra hours, serious focus with a tight
deadline. You originally committed enthusiastically to the project, and
now it's impeding your life. The stress levels rise, and you find
yourself overwhelmed because your health is being compromised, your
family is demanding attention, and your "inner peace" has become a
distant concept. You are saying to yourself, "I don't have a choice".
"If I want to complete this project, and not lose my job, I have to
work". Perhaps you know someone who has experienced this scenario,
maybe even you.

In the face of "I don't have a choice", you have choices.


CHOICE #1 Stay in the perspective of "I don't have a choice" while
resisting or resenting the original commitment. This is a choice,
whether you acknowledge it or not. When you choose "I don't have a
choice" you are playing "victim" to your original commitment (or
choice) and/or the circumstances that surround you. I call this running
on "auto-pilot". "I made the commitment, I have to follow through". No,
you don't have to. Do you run on "auto-pilot" out of a sense of
"integrity" or "have to"? In doing so, you're giving your power away to
someone or something other than yourself. You'll likely feel stress,
overwhelm, out of control and intense time pressures. The "choice" to
stay in "I don't have a choice" is an energy drain and dis-empowering,
and ultimately creates a negative impact on your performance and your
health. Where are you resisting a choice? This is a cop out choice.

CHOICE #2 - Make a new agreement. I'm big on keeping my word, however I
believe it's even more important to "be at choice". And, often times
creating a new agreement is best for you, and for all parties. This is
often a simple and easy solution that brings power back to you.

* Can the deadline be extended or dropped?
* Can an appointment be rescheduled?
* What are the consequences of completing this late? Can you live with
* How else might I achieve my outcome?

CHOICE #3 - Explore alternative resources. When we're locked into "I
don't have a choice", we're less likely to explore alternative
resources or to accept help from others. Set aside your ego and the
need to be "significant". Give up the notion of something "having" to
be hard. Be willing for it to be easier. It doesn't always have to be a
struggle. "Be at choice" and open yourself up to the alternatives. Ask
a powerful question. One of my friends is always asking, "How can this
be done
more easily and efficiently?" Funny thing is, there is usually an
easier way if we're open to it, and she is always finding a way.

* Are their additional people or resources available to you to make
this job easier and lighten the load?
* How can I empower those around me to step up and be more, do more
than they would normally do?
* What haven't I thought of yet?
* How can I duplicate myself?
* What other options are available?

CHOICE #4 - Align with your original choice and decide to enjoy it or
at the very least accept it. Find something that makes you feel good
about your choice - the challenge of it, working with a team, using
your creativity, the feeling of accomplishment when the task is
complete, knowing you're a person of your word, learning and growth
opportunities, or simply choosing to follow through and give your best.
I'm not suggesting you pretend, or that this is always easy. I am
suggesting that even in the most challenging of situations there is
always a way to re-frame things within yourself and re-align with
choice if you're open to that possibility. Focus on what excited you
about the project in the first place. Focus on what following through
with your choice will give you.

SOULFUL CHALLENGE: The next time you feel, "I don't have a choice,"
stop yourself. Do you really want to remain in resistance to your
choice? Do you need to make a new agreement? What alternative resources
are available? How can you align, enjoy or accept your original choice
with fresh eyes? Challenge yourself to live from a place of choice.
It's empowering.

Author Profile: Mary Allen has been a respected Professional Life Coach
for over five years, and has authored the engaging online newsletter
Soulfully Living since 2002. She enjoys a full coaching practice
working with individuals who share a commitment to success and inner
fulfillment. Mary is also the author of the acclaimed eCourse program
Living in Choice. For more information about Mary Allen, visit http://www.lifecoachmary.com.

How To Turn Depression/Disappointment Into Personal Power

How to Turn Depression/Disappointment into Personal Power
(c) Barry Eisen

Have you ever been so depressed that you could not concentrate at work,
were short and irritable with people close to you, had no energy or
just couldn't care about anything? Then your depression is taking too
large a toll and there are things you can do and skills you can

True depression is a clinical state and may need serious, even medical,
attention. The interesting truth is that when most people say "I'm
depressed," what they are really saying is "I'm disappointed." It's
easy to point at a situation or person as the culprit; but most
often,we are actually disappointed with decisions we have made: in what
we've done, what we haven't done, or with whom we've chosen to align
ourselves. We are disappointed by choices we have made.

People who have a Positive Mental Attitude rarely get "down." It's easy
to have a PMA when things are going well. It's using skills of PMA when
things go wrong that separates the problem creators from the problem
solvers, the followers from the leaders, the frenzied from the focused
and the whiners from the winners. A PMA can be developed just like any
other habit. It takes work (the kind of work you find in my classes).

Here are eight specific skills you can use or share with those who may
too easily let go of their PMA when challenged:

* Goals: Have long term and short term goals that are exciting to keep
you focused on what's important. Write them down and review them daily.
Seeing these goals -or reasons- reminds us of why we're bothering to
face the challenge.

* Gratitude: Write a list of things for which you are grateful.
Consider the physical, emotional and mental blessings you have which
can be directed to any current challenge. Close you eyes and feel the
emotions of thankfulness and gratitude.

* Serve: Help someone. Get out of your own predicament by recognizing
that you have something to give.

* Exercise: The endorphin rush alone is worth it! Sweat, it's good for

* Keep Active: Go somewhere. Create something. Write. Read. Play.

* Relax: More endorphins. Less judgment. More peace. Mentally program
your goals.

* Change Your Physiology: Stand taller. Sit straighter. Smile more.
Take deep breaths.

* Most important: Guard your thoughts. If you notice yourself using
negative words or images
1)celebrate your awareness of the negativity rather than beating
yourself up for it.
2) Replace the negative word or image with what serves you positively.
Ask yourself "What do I want instead?" Repeat this to yourself as if
you had already accomplished it.

Changing your focus changes your energy.
Changing your energy changes your life.

For things to get better, we have to get better. Surrounding ourselves
with positive people, new ideas and insightful perspectives gives us
the extra support throughout everyday and especially at a moment of
disappointment. These programs are designed to do just that!

Author Profile: Barry Eisen, Developmental Excelerations Inc.,
www.develexcel.com, barryeisen@msn.com